She said yes. Now, what? A first date is loaded with expectancy – will she/he like me? Is this person going to be the “One”? Will I do or say the right thing or will I totally embarrass myself? Will we get physical and if so, will there be any chemistry between us? Will we have anything to talk about and if not, how will we get through the evening?
It is definitely possible to think too much about a first date. The key is to relax, enjoy yourself and not to analyze everything too much. Wouldn’t it be great if you could both say that you had a good experience? So, how can you make sure that your first date is the best it can be. Here are 5 tips for men on dating success and making an impression that will last.
No movies on the first date. How can you get to know each other if you spend the majority of the time in silence? Try to pick a location that’s comfortable and conducive to conversation. Dinner is ideal for a first date because it helps you get to know each other, You’re focused on the conversation, rather than an activity. By sitting opposite, making eye contact, listening to their voice, seeing how they smile, seeing how they listen to you, you can really find out who the person is.
Let the other person see the real you. A first date is not the time to try out being the person you’d like to be, or the person you think your date would like you to be. After all, you don’t want them falling in love with a false version of you. You want someone who likes you for all you are, with your good bits, your not so good bits, your little quirky bits and all the things in between that make you, you. And a general rule for every date: Stay off your phone.
Keep conversation light:
Try to avoid heated debates about the state of the world, Politics, religion, and current affairs for now at least! Politics, a crucial piece of first date advice is to keep the conversation light. While honesty is important, the first date is a chance to enjoy the company of someone new, so it’s best to focus on the fun and positive aspects of each other. Dating is more about living in the moment and making the most of the time you have. Think like a teen. Remember the heart pumping anticipation and excitement of going for a first date?
First off, if you are going to dinner, read the Rules for Fine Dining list; try to remember at least one or two. When you pick up your date, get out of the car and hold the door open for her. If she is in high heels do not make her walk a lot. No matter how much she seems at ease, her feet are hurting like hell. If you are dining out for your first date, hold the chair out for your date and help her sit. And also remember to laugh at her jokes. Women like that, just like you.
Even if she offers, insist on paying for the date — especially if you initiated the date in the first place. When you invite a girl on a date it’s your responsibility to take care of her. Embrace your masculine essence and demonstrate your protection and provision by paying for the date. So as a man you should always expect to pay for the date. After all you want her to be able to relax and enjoy her time with you. And that will be difficult if she’s worried about the money she’s spending.
If you do like each other, you can either extend the date or plan a longer one for next time. Remember to keep things simple, straight and fun. Leave it on a high note with both sides wanting to see each other again!