Two decades and two children after their New Year’s Eve wedding, Will Smith paid one of the nicest tributes to wife Jada Pinkett on their 20th wedding anniversary, calling her his “Queen.”
Alongside a picture of the twenty-year couple, in their white wedding ensembles, the 49-year-old “Men in Black” star wrote his heart out in a brief tribute to wife Pinkett, 45.
“I have learned to focus on HELPING you to BLOSSOM into what YOU want to be (into what you were born to be)… Rather than Demanding that you become what my Fragile Ego needs you to be. . I’ve learned to take pleasure in Nourishing YOUR dreams… Rather than wrestling with you to Fulfill my Selfish Needs & Satiate My Insecurities,” he wrote in earnest.
And, for good measure, he threw in a quick poem, as well.
“I have learned that Love is Listening. Love is Giving. Love is Freedom,” he mused.
The “Aladdin” star concluded his message with, “Happy Anniversary, My Queen! I am forever Devoted to Nurturing your Deepest Truth.”
20 Years Ago Today we held hands and walked naively down that aisle. Here’s what I’ve learned since. . Love is Like Gardening… I have learned to focus on HELPING you to BLOSSOM into what YOU want to be (into what you were born to be)… Rather than Demanding that you become what my Fragile Ego needs you to be. . I’ve learned to take pleasure in Nourishing YOUR dreams… Rather than wrestling with you to Fulfill my Selfish Needs & Satiate My Insecurities. . I have learned that Love is Listening. Love is Giving. Love is Freedom. . Happy Anniversary, My Queen! I am forever Devoted to Nurturing your Deepest Truth.
Speaking to Sibley Scoles of E! News on his 20-year marriage at the LA premiere of his Netflix movie “Bright” last month, Smith spoke about unconditional love being different from what we are used to seeing in movies, saying it’s a “whole lot harder.”
“Two decades. When you’re married with somebody that long and we were talking about it, we was like, “You know, it’s 20 years, what are we gonna do?’ She was like, ‘We’re gonna high-five and keep it moving’,” Smith, who shares a 19-year-old son Jaden and daughter Willow, 17, with Pinkett, said.
“It’s really interesting, it’s like, when you see couples that have been together long and you have that look between them and you just know, if you haven’t been with somebody that long, you just can’t really say the thing where you get to that place where you find the magic in the mundane, where you’re not seeking the high stimulus and all of that ravaging, craving- it’s just really simple and really easy, you know,” he philosophized.
“It’s certainly not what I pictured in my mind…what it’s supposed to be. It’s like, unconditional love is a whole lot harder and different than it looks in the movies,” he concluded.
Let’s go back in time, long back, and find out how it all started for the Fresh Prince of Bel-Air and his lady love of twenty-three years and wife of twenty.
Will and Jada first met in 1994 on the set of Fresh Prince of Bel-Air, where Jada had gone to audition for the role of Lisa Wilkies, who is Will’s girlfriend in the NBC television series. However, she was deemed too short for the role, which ultimately went to Nia Long.
Ironically, the part she got rejected for is the part she got to play in real life, as the two became friends and started dating in 1995.
The relationship flourished for two years before Mr. Smith decided to give it a kind of permanence and went down on one knee to pop the question one November day in 1997. And, as we know, her answer was a “Yes.”
“One day we got engaged, and the next day we found out we were pregnant,” Jada told PEOPLE magazine at the time.
The couple tied the knot on New Year’s Eve that year, in what PEOPLE called “the most lavish and secretive celebrity wedding of the year.”
The venue for the nuptials, approved by the couple, was a grand mansion called “Cloisters” near Baltimore, Maryland, where Jada had spent her early days.
Wedding planner David Weinschel may not have been serious when he told PEOPLE magazine that, “Jada wanted it simple but elegant.” What he called simple had taken eight decorators more than ten hours to meet the high standards set by the couple for the venue’s look.
Secrecy was the buzzword leading up to D-Day. The couple wanted to ensure absolute privacy with no media leaks, whatsoever. Formal invitations were not sent out; guests were, instead, asked to reach their hotels in Baltimore where they were given an envelope to be handed over to their limo chauffeurs who would then ferry them to the secret venue.
Best known for her role as the human rebel Niobe in “The Matrix Reloaded,” Jada began her showbiz career in 1990 with a guest appearance in the sitcom “True Colors,” which didn’t last long.
She has appeared in more than twenty films since, including Scream 2, two Matrix films – Reloaded and Revolutions and three installments of Madagascar films – Madagascar, Escape 2 Africa and Europe’s most wanted.
Before marrying Jada in 1997, Will Smith was married to Sheree Zampino from 1992 to 1995 and has a 25-year-old son, Trey Smith, from her.